Part 1 Taking Lead


After watching a youtube video of Adam and Eve with my two year old daughter I came to a revelation. Eve wasn't with Adam when Satan tempted her with the forbidden fruit and convinced her to eat it. This got me thinking about Genesis 2:18 where God created woman to be her own husbands help meet. (He created us as wives to come along side as equals with our husbands but with different jobs that are both so important. We are both called to serve each other. ) I am wondering where Adam was at the time? It got me thinking if she wasn't with him was she wondering on a head of him, not letting him lead? God created man first they are in charge of leading our family they will be held accountable for leading our families. We as woman will be accountable for following and assisting our husbands, not leading our husbands. I got to thinking that from the beginning of time have wives been over stepping their roles and trying to take lead, feeling their husband is lacking in some area? I don't know if this is the case with Adam and Eve but it got me thinking what if it was. What if Eve took it on her own accord to wonder out from under the protection of her husband, breaking the perfect design intended for marriage. Eve blamed the snake for tricking her, we blame others, a lot of times our husbands instead of looking at ourselves. My question is how can our husbands take reign if we already are, how inadequate are we making them feel? I am wondering if Adam took that bite of fruit because Eve made him feel inadequate, made him feel ashamed that he wasn't protecting his wife as God had called him to do. Now flip it around, it's Adams turn to answer God, but what does he do? He blames Eve. Now we have the husband not taking ownership of his own faults (sins). It's a vicious cycle!  


1 Peter 3:7 talks about wives being a weaker vessel, now hold on a minute, I think what was meant her was the sensitivity we have. We are by nature more emotional and sensitive then most men. I think we throw a lot of emotion around and let that lead us, instead of truth. There is only one way to get a hold of these emotions, that is practice. I think we need to reign in our emotions and look at the real pictures. Most likely we are stepping into the husband role out of fear. Fear of what you say? I don't know, for everyone it will be different. 2 Timothy 1:7 says that the Lord did not give us a spirit of fear. The second thing we need to look at is why are we arguing? If we were to honestly look at the reasons we argue with our spouses or anyone else, it comes down to a fear inside of us. As James 4:1 talks about quarreling coming from desires that war within us. 


So whats my point? Whats my conclusion? hmmmm well first and foremost be honest with yourself, then with your spouse. Be vulnerable and humble. The devil wants you afraid, he wants you to believe that they won't understand you, won't be sensitive enough etc. Don't come at it with your defenses up.


I can't say my revelation about Adam and Eve is true, but it sure got me thinking. I hope it makes you think too.  


Part 2 will be my story of trying to take lead of my husbands role and how when I released it to God, it was better then I could have ever imagined.


God Bless and thanks for taking a trip inside my head :)


UPDATE: As I was talking about humility, I have to ask for forgiveness for not opening my Bible where it says in Genesis 3:6 that Adam was with Eve....that blows my revelation out of the water, and a great reminder for me to check my Bible before taking something from a children's You tube video lol, It doesn't however take my views away from the fact that too many wives are trying to step into their husbands roles, or the fact that too many of us have fear and aren't honest and humble with our spouse.  Glad my first post wasn't perfect, now you all know the truth I'm NOT PERFECT, just simply a woman :)